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Kim Anthony Bally Obituary written by Maria Hawkins Kim's ex wife and mother of his son Mark.
Kim Bally passed peacefully in his sleep Sept 23, 2024 at the Shawville Hospital after a lengthy battle with dementia.
Thirty Seven years as dispatch for Gervais Towing. He knew when it was time to go and left Gervais over 6 years ago to seek treatment for what was then severe memory loss.
Kim is predeceased by his Mother Pearl Evelyn Atkins from Saskatoon, Saskatewan. and his father Horace Holmes Bally from Trinidad. He leaves behind his son Mark and his sister Nancy along with brothers Dennis and Gerry and neices Tara, Leah and Lauren.
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Kim was born in London Ont and the family were transferred to many bases including Trenton and Petawawa.
The disappearance of military dad Horace Bally, so suddenly in Kim's teenage years left Kim with few great memories of his dad. He claims that they weren't a close family. He remembered fondly his time in Belleville and his Mum Pearl's bridge studio that she began in their house and later a build onto the house.
Pearl was struck by breast cancer and during regular treatments she began to learn about herbs and studied so much so that later Kim and and grandson Mark helped her preparations and many people benefited from her holistic approach to nutrician. She was a loving and kind grandmother to Mark.
Kim loved to play darts and played with a league that met at the old Bank Street location. He loved Star Trek and knew all the trivia.
Kim played guitar and didn't particularly sing but enjoyed many different styles of music. Kim loved chess.
Kim also helped his mother with her holistic business and the wood cutting/sale business.
He loved to gather with the rest of the family for Christmas holiday fun.
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At the end of his time with scientology he took the purification course because he felt he had done too many 'various' drugs in his youth. He had joined because he decided to dedicate himself to the study of the mind, hoping to understand his dad and the fracturing of his family.
In and around the impending birth of his son in late '81, he decided to return to Calgary. Building a family was the last thing on his mind when he fell in love.
Kim had thought his life path was with Scientology until when his lifestyle took a turn. No longer able to rotate between working oil rigs and paying for more courses. Now he had a child of his own on the way. His family was not close knit and he had no experience with family life with kids but he tried.
In Calgary with some help from a deprogrammer, Kim found himself once away from his Scientology friends and family. There weren't enough jobs and in frustration he turned more and more to alcohol to get him through emotions that he couldn't handle.
Upon returning to Ottawa, Kim went to school studying the Electrical Engineering Program and graduated top of his class. Some would say that he was the smartest person that they had ever met. I know that I did.
His first job in the business didn't pan out and he became frustrated looking for jobs in that sector. He was quickly gathered up by Gervais Towing as dispatcher. He worked the night and weekend shifts and loved his job and the drivers. He brought home stray cats from the yard and brought them back to life. He loved cats so much that at one point he was evicted from his apartment in Mechanicsville apartment due to the number of cats he lived with.
He moved to Preston street and joined a dart league. That's when he explored his love of astral photography and had a couple of his pictures featured in a magazine. (if anyone has a copy please we'd love to share a copy as the pictures haven't been seen for years) Kim was stable and did quite well for himself and began dating eventually starting a relationship with a lovely woman who has a disabled daughter. They were an item for years and she gave Kim some stability.
Even good things don't always last forever and the alcohol ruined many of his relationships and was also a contributing factor to the life-changing stroke he suffered. After that he barely kept in contact with anyone including his family.
Pearl had recovered from breast cancer but it returned in her brain, she helped him purchase a moble home in Quebec. Unfortunately Kim changed and became more interverted after the stroke. Sadly all those stray cats he took in and cared for ruined his mobile home forcing him to face some tough decisions.
With demensia coming on there wasn't anyone who could take him on. The family didn't have the resources for his quickly deminishing capacity and confrontational interactions. This would be his last residence before going into the long term care in Campbells Bay..
For 37 years, Kim was a great dispatch and the night voice of Gervais Towing. He knew every shortcut, every driver and their truck's capacity and he was the reassuring voice on the phone for those who were stranded on the side of the road, in the dark and alone. He was their rock. He took his job very seriously for 37 years! He did it right up until he could not longer remember what trucks had what options and had to use a gps to get himself home. His diagnosis was followed by a very quick decline.
Even with GPS, he would still arrive late for appointments and he felt more and more isolated until he moved into long term care. There he found a sense of community, having forgotten so much of his life and those who had been in it.
He was a great guy who loved to help others and had a mission for most of his life and that was securing the night for those stranded in the dark. Thank you Kim for being that voice when all seemed lost.
In the end it was his older half-brother Dennis who got the call that Kim had passed in his sleep on Sept 23, 2024. It was difficult for Dennis and he just couldn't be the one to tell the family. It was Kim's sister Nancy that called to check on him a month latern as now he had been moved from his long term care home in Campbell's Bay to the Shawville Hospital and she notified us Kim's family.
Kim tried to maintain a relationship with his son, but eventually the dementia took that as well.
Kim was kindly cared for by Julie and the staff of The Valentine Centre and we all wish to thank them for making it truly a comfortable home for Kim. Knowing how well he was cared for truly helps in this time of loss. You loose them twice with dementia. Kim is survived by his son Mark, his brother Gerry, his sister Nancy Long and her daughter Tara Long, his brother Dennis and neices Leah and Lauren.
Kim has been cremated as per his wishes and when we are able to, we will be inviting everyone to a welcome space to celebrate Kim's life.